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PICKING A VIBRATOR OR COUPLES SEX TOY WITH YOUR PARTNER FOR POWERFUL PARTNER PLEASURE
We often associate vibrators and sex toys with masturbation and may mistakenly think that toys are only for when we're alone. But using toys in a relationship with your partner can add to the fun. A lot of toys are designed to be used together - some couples sex toys include vibrating rings, remote control vibrators, and finger vibes.
Couples of all genders and sexual orientations can enjoy using sex toys on and with each other. Which one you choose likely depends on the body parts you and your partner have, as well as whether you like internal or external play.
Here we share some of our favorites and some tips and tricks for using partner sex toys.
WHY YOU SHOULD USE A SEX TOY WITH YOUR PARTNER
Some people might feel that using couples sex toys can take away from the experience of having intercourse. Others might feel a sense of egoism in thinking they don’t need to use a toy or vibrator to help their partner reach orgasm. But if the end goal is doing everything you can to help maximize your partner’s pleasure, there are ample reasons to use couples sex toys:
Getting warmed up. Sex toys can help you and your partner get into any sexual encounter and warmed up for vaginal or anal intercourse. That’s why they are an ideal tool for foreplay: sex toys for couples can provide pleasurable stimulants that may help build more powerful orgasms.
Extra oomph. Sex toys may accelerate orgasms during intercourse and help your partner reach orgasm during penis-in-vagina sex even if you have a smaller penis size. Go from “ooh” to “OH, OH” in the blink of an eye. If you’ve always wanted to experience a squirting orgasm or get your partner to squirt, couples sex toys may offer that extra push to get your or your partner gushing.
Dom/sub play. Some couples sex toys, like fingertip vibrators and remote-control couples’ vibrators, are perfect for those who like being the dominant “daddy” or want their partner to have control over the frequency and level of stimulation. Remember to have a safe word in case you get overwhelmed by all the vibrations.
Remember: the ideal outcome is doing whatever you can to have sex feel as pleasurable and positive as you can. Sex toys can help you and your partner attain that outcome! Just make sure both you AND your partner are comfortable using them before you bring them into your sex life.
HOW TO BRING UP SEX TOYS WITH A PARTNER
Most people have used sex toys at some point in their lives but there are still some taboos that suggest sex toys are only for the lonely or people whose partners aren't that good in bed. These simply aren't true! Don't be shy about wanting to bring a sex toy into your couple's play but do try to be sensitive if your partner's first reaction isn't pure enthusiasm.
Here are some tips for talking to your partner about introducing adult toys into your sex life:
Pick a neutral moment. If you think your partner might be hesitant, try not to bring it up right before or right after sex. Instead, pick a neutral moment to take their temperature on the idea.
Provide reassurance. Start by telling them how sexy you think they are and how much you like the sex you're having. Remind them that this is about adding to the pleasure you already give each other and not an attempt to replace them with a battery-operated alternative.
Focus on them. You may be the one who is looking forward to the added buzz, but if your partner needs convincing, put their pleasure front and center. Tell them what you want to do to them, what you want them to do to you, and how just thinking about it is getting you turned on.
BEST COUPLES SEX TOYS: HOW TO USE THEM & DIFFERENT BENEFITS
There are many ways that couples can enjoy using sex toys together, and different partner sex toys can offer a variety of different benefits to couples. As we mentioned, it’s important to talk with your partner about using a sex toy. It’s also important to know what kind of sex toy might suit you both best as a couple, and how to choose a sex toy accordingly. Consider some of the following:
VIBRATING RING
What is a vibrating cock ring? A ring sex toy is a small bullet-shaped vibrator that is attached to a soft, stretchy silicone ring that goes around the base of a penis (or a strap-on). This can stimulate the penis during any kind of sexual activity. If it's used during penis-in-vagina sex, the vibrating part can also stimulate the clitoris. That dual stimulation is what makes vibrating cock rings one of the best couples’ sex toys around!
How to use a vibrating cock ring. Slip the ring over the penis to the base and then carry on with whatever sexual activities you had in mind. If you're having vaginal sex, make sure to turn the vibrating part toward the clitoris. Some vibrating rings have two pieces that vibrate; one for each partner. Play with the position of the ring until it gets to a good spot for all. You might try experimenting with different positions and angles to get the most out of the vibrations. For example, grinding on your partner in the cowgirl position during penis-in-vagina sex could provide added clitoral stimulation and have you or your partner bucking like a buckaroo in no time.
Try the Trojan™ Tandem™ Couples Vibrating Ring. This sex toy for couples features a ribbed tactile stimulator that provides extended reach to the genitals for people with a penis as well as a textured vibrator that provides some buzz for your partner if they have a vulva.
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REMOTE CONTROL BULLET VIBE
What is a remote-control bullet? Bullet vibrators are classic sex toys that are small and discreet. On the Trojan™ Vibrating Bullet, the buttons to turn it on and off are on a short leash that stays outside the body even if the vibe goes in.
How to use a remote-control bullet. The bullet vibe can be used internally or externally. That means you can get especially frisky – like letting your partner use the remote control to set the speed and sensation while you’re in the great outdoors on a camping trip. Not being in control is part of the fun, which is why bullet vibrators may be the ideal sex toy for couples into dom/sub play.
Check out the Trojan™ Vibrating Bullet for fun partner play. It has four different speeds—low, medium, high, and ultra—so you can let your partner mix and match to their liking. Whether it’s several slow-building vibrations or immediately intense stimulations, find out how this remote-control sex toy for couples can up the ante.
WAND VIBRATORS
What is a wand vibrator? Wands are vibrators with a wide top designed for external stimulation on the penis, vulva, or clitoris. Whether you’re holding them on the sensitive areas or rubbing it in all your favorite spots, this external sex toy can offer a versatile array of vibrations.
How to use a wand vibrator. This one is easy, find a good spot and turn it on. You can put it on the bed and position yourself on top of it for hands-free fun or let your partner get between your legs and move it around until they find the exact right position. Wand vibrators have added utility as a sex toy for romantic partners because they can address spots where you might want some extra buzz while you’re being penetrated.
Try the Trojan™ Power Wand Deep Wave Vibrator. This cordless, multi-speed wand vibrator is made of smooth silicone. It’s an external personal massager that hits all the right notes.
BULLET FINGER VIBRATOR
What is a finger vibrator? Fingers vibes are usually small bullets with a little place for your index finger to slip in so that you wear it for easy positioning on your partner's body (or your own).
How to use a finger vibrator. Slip your index finger into the opening, turn it on, and then touch your partner anywhere or everywhere. The finger vibe gives you pinpoint precision.
Try the Trojan™ Ultra Touch™ Fingertip Vibrator. It’s small and portable so you can bring the vibes with you wherever you and your partner go for some spicy sexy time. Plus, this 2-in-1 fingertip vibrator can also be used as a bullet vibrator, and it’s totally waterproof. That means you can use it if things get especially steamy when you shower with your partner!
G-SPOT “RABBIT” VIBRATORS
What is a g-spot vibrator? Some internal vibrators are specially designed with a curve that is meant to hit the g-spot-a spot on the front wall of the vagina that can lead to intense orgasms when pressure is applied directly. Some g-spot vibes-often called rabbit vibes-also have a piece that stays outside to stimulate the clit directly.
How to use a g-spot vibrator. Insert the internal personal massager into the vagina with the curved side up so it's pointing toward the belly button. Try moving it in and out until you find just the right spot.
Try Trojan™ Divine Contoured Vibrator. This sex toy features contours and ridges to help provide added stimulation whether you’re using it internally or externally. It also has three speeds, so you can help your partner turn up the heat before you decide to penetrate them yourself.
APP-CONTROLLED SEX TOYS
What is an app-controlled sex toy? Teledildonics (also called cyberdildonics) is a real word and a real thing. Various kinds of couples sex toys (vibrators and eggs) are programmed to be Bluetooth enabled so they can sync with apps on your smartphone. This means that you or your partner can control the sensations each other feels from the next room, the next town, or across the country.
How to use an app-controlled sex toy. These may have a slightly higher learning curve and you'll have to download an app for your phone, but once you get it set up you can start playing with your partner from near or far. Get the night started early - have your partner wear a vibrating egg when you go out to dinner and turn it on from your seat before dessert is done.
BUTT PLUGS
What is a butt plug? A butt plug is the most common sex toy for anal play. These toys come in a lot of shapes, sizes, and materials, and some of them also vibrate. The one thing all butt plugs have in common is they all have a piece that goes inside and a wide base at the bottom that stays outside the anus. (This is very important because objects without a base can get stuck or lost inside the rectum which is a situation that requires immediate medical attention.)
How to use a butt plug. A butt plug is meant to be inserted into the anus and can be used on any partner regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Make sure to use a lot of lube because the anus is sensitive and doesn't make any lubrication of its own. Start slowly and keep checking in with your partner to make sure it feels good.
2-IN-1 COUPLES SEX TOYS
What is a sex toy designed for couples? First off, any sex toy can be used for couples play with one partner using it on the other or each partner using their own toy on the other at the same time. However, some sex toys are specifically designed so that couples can share a single toy at the same time. There are also toys for different bodies playing together, for partners of all genders and orientations.
For example, double-ended dildos are designed for simultaneous penetration play on each partner. There are also double-ended vibrators with a wand on one end and a dildo on the other for an external-internal partner pleasure combo, or double-sided wand ends that can work great on partners with vulvas or couples where each person is into external play.
Try Trojan™ Dual Pleasure Vibrating Wand. It’s a 2-in-1 sex toy with a vibrating wand for people with vulvas and a vibrating cock ring for people with a penis. This versatile sex toy for both partners can be used for mutual masturbation, or you might choose to use each of the ends separately. Powerful vibrations in the palm of your hand.
SHOPPING FOR VIBRATORS AND COUPLES SEX TOYS
After you and your partner have decided to bring a toy to the bedroom, it's time to go shopping! Find Trojan™ vibrators & sex toys-and a pleasure-enhancing Trojan™ lube-near you with our in-store locator or buy online.
Using a sex toy for couples is an art that gets better with practice. Don't worry if it was a bit awkward the first time or didn't blow you away. Talk with your partner about what worked and what didn't, and try some of our favorite sex toy tips to improve your technique or reach next-level pleasure.
