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All the Slippery Details on Having Hot Shower Sex

A steamy room, flickering candles, and a naked partner already wet and glistening. No wonder so many movies include shower sex scenes. From the outside, it seems like the sexiest thing ever, but anyone who has ever given it a try will tell you that having shower sex can be trickier than it looks. Space is tight, the floor is slippery, and if you end up outside the water stream, you can get cold fast.

We still think shower sex is worth the effort, but it does take some planning. Here are some tips and tricks to make shower sex as steamy in real life as it is on the big screen.

Is Shower Sex Safe?

Yes, shower sex is safe so long as you take precautions. The biggest risk during shower sex is slipping and falling. Make sure you're on firm footing and don't try any sex positions that feel unsteady.

Another thing to note: water does not wash away any bacterial infections or STIs. It also does not have any effect on sperm. Additionally, shower sex can open you up to the possibility of yeast infections or UTIs if you stay wet for too long or if soap or other irritants get pushed into the urethra. Use a lot of lube, avoid soap and bath gels, and make sure to dry off fully when you get out.

Can You Use a Condom in the Shower?

Condoms are safe for use in the shower. They are specifically designed to be waterproof. Still, you should take precautions before using a condom in the shower:

Put the condom on before the penis gets wet: It may be more difficult to properly put your condom on after your penis has been doused by water from the shower. So, if you’ve already been engaging in foreplay or oral sex in the shower, consider drying your genitals off before putting on the condom.

There might be some slippage: Water from the shower disrupts some of the natural lubrication in your genitals and can cause friction and condom slippage. This is why it’s essential to ensure your condom fits properly. It’s also a reason you want to consider applying lube once you’ve actually put the condom on.

Take the time to understand condom sizing and your preferences in a condom – like if you and your partner enjoy textured condoms or want a spermicidal condom for extra protection against unintended pregnancies.

Condoms for Shower Sex

You can use latex condoms during shower sex. Any Trojan™ latex condom will work for shower sex as they are constantly tested to help ensure quality and reliability. Check the instructions on condom packaging before adding lube to your favorite condom.

For all the reasons previously stated, you should always use a condom during shower sex to help protect against STIs as well as unintended pregnancies. Also: while you want to use a condom in the shower, do not store them in a humid environment like the bathroom. Instead, store your condoms in a cooler, dryer environment – such as your bedside drawer – to help help prevent potential degradation.

How to Have Shower Sex

Shower sex is not always the magical experience movies and porn would like us to believe, but it really can be fun. You just need to make a plan for staying warm, safe, and wet (in more ways than one). Here are a few tips.

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Warm up the room: Bathrooms can be chilly places and it's hard to feel hot when you're cold. Turn the shower on and let the room steam up before you get in. If you have radiant flooring or a heating fan, turn those on too. And make the room look warm by adding a few candles – this can also make for some sexy ambiance!

Warm up each other: It can be harder to get turned on when you're wet, especially for people with vaginas because water washes away the natural lubrication your body makes. Get started with foreplay before you head under the water. Give plenty of love to the erogenous zones and consider exploring mutual masturbation so you are both raring to go as soon as you hop in.

Have lube at the ready: We can’t stress this enough. Showers are wet but they are not the right kind of wet. Water can cause friction and wash away natural lubrication during shower sex, so make sure to have some lube at the ready. You generally want to use silicone lube when having sex in the shower because it won’t rinse off in the water. Try a long-lasting silicone lube for shower sex, like Trojan™ Infinite Glide™, or opt for a lube with sensations such as Trojan™ Arouses* & Intensifies.

Get the water in right place: One of the trickiest parts of shower sex is getting the water stream to hit in the right spot. It often feels like one person gets all the water while the other is quite literally left out in the cold. And you don't want the water to hit anyone right in the face or be aimed right at the genitals when you're trying penetrative sex (it will wash away that lube). Aim the shower head at your chests or backs and move it around as needed. You also want to account for any head or body movements that may change where the water stream hits one or both of you – so it’s important to choose comfortable sex positions (more on this shortly) in addition to ensuring good body positioning.

Know when to get out: Shower sex doesn't have to start in the shower or end there. Some homes don't have an endless supply of hot water, and some people don't like the feeling of being waterlogged. Get out before anyone gets uncomfortable. You can keep the action going by toweling each other off gently and moving on to a drier location. Maybe you start with foreplay or oral sex in the shower before getting out and moving to penetrative sex in front of the mirror or on the bathroom counter.

Get a grip: Protect yourself from slips and falls by investing in a non-slip mat for inside the shower. Added bonus: it provides a little cushioning if one or both of you sits down or kneels. Moreover, some bathtubs and showers include grip handles to help people get in and out without slipping. The safest versions of these are installed on the wall. You might also use a towel rack if it’s inside the shower – just make sure it’s sturdy enough to withstand a firm grip.

The truth is that not everyone enjoys shower sex or finds it worth the effort. That's okay. Remember to get consent for everything you are going to do. If your partner is just not that into it, don't push. There are a lot of other places you can do it – again, that might be in front of the bathroom mirror or on the bathroom floor… just not in the shower itself.

And remember: if you do decide to try shower sex, make safety your No. 1 priority.

Shower Sex Activities

The shower is a change of venue, but with a little creativity (and a lot of flexibility), you can do anything in there that you can do on dry land and a little bit more. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

#1: Oral Sex

Get them wet while you both get wet. Oral sex can prove ideal for shower sex, particularly if you’re giving head to someone with a penis. If you’re going down on someone with a vulva, make sure they have something to support themselves. That could mean taking advantage of a shower bench or ledge for seated oral sex.

#2: Penetrative Sex

Whether you're going for vaginal or anal sex or prefer penetration with a finger or sex toy, the shower can accommodate you. Our favorite shower sex positions are below but how you do it will depend on your body parts, flexibility, and the size of your... shower stall. Remember our tips above and use a silicone-based lube like Trojan™ Arouses & Releases™ so things can be wet AND slippery.

#3: Mutual Masturbation

Don't feel bendy enough for penetrative sex in the shower? No problem. The shower is an excellent place for mutual masturbation. Start with a little show and tell; show your partner what you like and tell them how good it feels. Maybe touch yourself while you’re under the hot running water to give your partner a sexy snapshot. Then let them reach across the tub and take a turn touching you. Bring a waterproof toy into the shower to add to the fun.

#4: Solo Masturbation

The shower has always been a prime place for self-love. It’s a quiet, relaxing environment that can prove ideal for getting off. You can also get a little extra kinky with it and use the shower head as a sort of sex toy for masturbation. Holding a hand-held shower head up against your vulva or penis while hot water flows out can offer a unique kind of stimulation, with the water pressure providing a semblance of vibrations. Of course, you can also choose to bring your favorite sex toy in the shower with you.

Best Shower Sex Positions

The best positions for sex in the shower really depend on your shower. People with a small, stand-up shower may be limited to, well, stand-up sex. Shower/tub combos offer the option of sitting on the tub floor or propping one leg up on the ledge. If you have a shower with a built-in bench or room for one you could bring in, a lot more options open up.

The most important thing about choosing a shower sex position is safety. This is not the time to test out kinky sex positions that require tremendous flexibility or a ton of strength. If you've done it all before or are confident in your ability based on your daily yoga practice, go for it. Otherwise, try these safer positions and save the other stuff for drier rooms.

Standing Sex (Facing Toward or Away from Your Partner)

It’s probably no surprise that standing sex is the most obvious of shower sex positions because it's doable in even the smallest of showers. Lean against the wall facing toward or away from your partner, then they can put their hands on either side of your body for support. The receiving partner may have to lift their leg slightly and tilt the body, while the penetrating partner may have to get into a short crouch – so again, it’s imperative to find something that can help provide stability or comfort.

Depending on the direction you're facing, this can work for vaginal or anal sex. It may be even more ideal for penetration with a finger or sex toy.

Standing Doggy Style

In this position, the receptive partner bends over at the waist so that their partner can enter from behind. The doggy style sex position is ideal for deep penetration and hitting the G-spot or the P-spot. This is a case where things like grab bars can come in handy for the receiving partner. Or, if you have a rain shower, this may be an opportunity to pin your partner against the glass shower doors. Nothing like making some sexy handprints during steamy shower sex.

Seated Reverse Cowgirl or Cowboy

The seated reverse cowgirl or cowboy can be the perfect way to put that shower bench to good use. One partner sits down on the bench and the other sits on their lap facing forward. This is good for anal and vaginal penetration if the seated partner has a penis or is holding a sex toy. It can also be a good position for reaching around to give your partner a hand job or using your fingers on their clitoris.

One Leg Up (aka Captain Morgan)

The bench or the ledge of the tub is a good place to perch a bent leg for added stability. Do this position while facing toward or away from your partner as they enter you or use their fingers to make you quiver with pleasure. The easier access and new angle bring home the moans.

Shower Sex Accessories

Shower sex can be spontaneous but a little advanced planning-and advanced shopping-can set you up for a safe, steamy experience. Here are some of the things you might want to throw in the cart:

Massaging shower head: Shower heads are easy to change and not particularly expensive so you might consider getting one that can be hand-held and has some massage settings-try soft, medium, or hard, or set it to pulsate. Plus, as discussed, the shower head might become your makeshift sex toy.

Shower-friendly stool: Lots of positions are made possible (or more comfortable) with the addition of a place to sit down or prop up your leg. If your shower doesn't have a built-in bench consider adding one-they're easy to find and come in plastic, metal, or wood.

Water-safe sex toys: We touched on this earlier. If you like sex toys in the bedroom you might love them in the shower. Obviously, any toy that plugs into an outlet is a no-go for the shower because of the risk of electrocution. But lots of sex toys from vibrators to clit suckers are water-friendly. That includes most Trojan™ sex toys, aside from the Trojan™ Tandem™ Vibrating Ring (Note: The Trojan™ Dual Pleasure Vibrating Cock Ring is water-resistant). Look up whether it's safe to take your favorite sex toy into the shower or buy one that is specifically made for the water-like a vibrating loofah.

Trojan Tip: When using waterproof toys and lube, remember that silicone lube works best in the shower but isn't great for silicone sex toys. If your shower toy is made of silicone, try water-based lube instead. It will work but might wash away more quickly, so keep the bottle nearby to reapply.

Shower Sex, Fantasy vs Reality

Shower sex might not be your thing, and that’s perfectly fine! Ultimately, some sex fantasies are sometimes better than the real thing. For others, though, shower sex can help provide variety and a change of pace in your sex life. And even if you’re not having penetrative sex in the shower, consider bathroom sex as a possible alternative.

Be prepared for sensual shower fun by buying your favorite Trojan products ahead of time online or at a store near you. There is no way to know which group you'll be in until you give it a try. And if one position doesn't work and you're up to trying again, test out some of the tips in this article to heighten the experience and the pleasure.